Brain and Heart - LoveIsTough

Love: It's Not Brain Surgery.
(Actually, It's Probably Harder.)

Let's be real: love is a battlefield, relationships are a Herculean task disguised as Netflix and chill, and dating apps are basically rigged games designed to make you question your self-worth. I know. It sucks. But here at LoveIsTough.com, I believe that even though it's a hot mess of epic proportions, the possibility of connection, of finding your person amidst the chaos, is still worth the struggle.

So, instead of pretending it's all sunshine and roses, I'm here to help you laugh at the absurdity of it all. I'm your online sanctuary for venting about disastrous dates, commiserating over ghosting experiences, and finding the humor in the everyday struggles of navigating the messy, complicated world of love and relationships.

Because while love might be tough, you don't have to go it alone. We're all in this together, one awkward first date and hopeful swipe at a time. Let's face the absurdity head-on, share our stories, and maybe, just maybe, find a little light in the darkness. After all, what's life without a little love-fueled chaos?

About Me

About Me - LoveIsTough

Normally, this section is written in the third person, to sound more "professional", but I want this to really feel like a conversation between good friends. These are topics and ideas that are too personal to be treated any other way.

We all know love can drive you crazy...and you have to be a little nuts to keep trying after a serious heartbreak.
At 52 years old, I can honestly say I am definitely CRAZY!

I've lived through a full spectrum of relationships. The traditional, monogamous marriage, swinging, open relationships, couples, throuples, and even 6 people all dating each other equally together. To do this, has required me to explore many different perspectives, and forced me to be truly honest with myself about what I want, verses what I was always told I "should" want.

Being raised by a prison shrink and a former cop in a religious household that was filled with it's own conflicts and hardships, well...it gave me a unique way of looking at people and how to spot the flaws in how we all think and treat each other.

I've held corporate leadership jobs most of my life, but have also veered off the usual path to explore things like tattooing, art businesses, "how-to" sex party instructor and even dabbled in porn and designing and building custom sex furniture.

There's no correct path, there are just ones that bring you contentment and those that don't.

Over the years, I've helped countless couples and single friends clear their minds of the societal clutter, to find focus. Using a mix of psychology, humor, logic and love that allows them to see what questions truly matter at the end of the day.

I've learned from painful failures as much as I have from unexpected successes. The entire time I've had a few repeating mental roadblocks, and social myths that I want to share with you. Once you recognize them, and honestly examine them...THEN you can start to find what will truly make you happy.

So, let's dive in, and be crazy together!

Random Thoughts

A collection of the odd thoughts and ramblings that run through my mind about love and dating in the modern age.

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Real Stories from Real People

Heartbreak, healing, and everything in between. Read stories from others who've been through it.

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The Cynic's Toolkit

Guides, tips, and tricks for surviving dating apps and relationships with your sanity (mostly) intact.

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